Getting a little help ...

So, last night was our first counseling appointment. It was easier than I expected. Mostly just getting to know each other and then telling her about our history and where we are in our marriage right now and why we decided to go see her. She even identified an area that she wants to work on next week. 
After we left Josh and I talked about our appointment and we think it's going to help that we now have this person to help us learn how to be better together. At first I was really worried about going, like it was some sort of admission that we couldn't do it alone, but after thinking about it I just feel like we are doing what we need to do to stay together. We are doing doing the hard thing by admitting that we need to learn how to be better together, that we need skills that we don't have right now to communicate. 
After our appointment, I'm so glad that we went. I left the building with this lightheartedness. Our conversation was still serious and it was still difficult at times, but it was so good to know that we are moving in the right direction, that we are going to be stronger for each other and for our little buggy because of this. 

My Husband’s name is Josh.

My husband and I met in High School. Supposedly.

He claims we had a government type class together freshman year. We were doing a mock trial in the class and the people with the highest scores on the test got to pick their positions. I got the highest score in the class and chose to be the judge. He got the second highest score in the class and was apparently upset with me for picking the judge and held a grudge for the next five years. 

Fast forward five years and we met again in the spring of 2008. We were nineteen years old. My best friend had a class on Wednesday nights and I would pick him up after and we would go to Denny’s. One week he invited a girl from his class. This girl is now my sister in law and her name is Amanda.

((Amanda and I)) New Years Eve 2008-9

One night she brought Josh with her to Denny’s and we started talking about books. We both love to read and we promised to lend each other some of our favorites. After a couple weeks his sister went out of town to work at a church camp for the summer.

We didn’t see each other for a little while and then one night we randomly started IM-ing. I invited him over to my house, or rather my parents, and then we watched movies. I believe the first one was Juno.

From that night on we were inseparable.  That was June of 2008.

When I met Josh, I was bitter towards marriage because of my parents and I thought I would never get married, or if I did it would be when I was an old lady.

Three months later I knew we were going to get married. And I wasn’t going to be an old lady.  We had a pretty whirlwind romance.

He proposed that December while we were celebrating Christmas with his family. He got down on one knee in front of his extended family and asked me to marry him. I agreed immediately. He gave me my mother’s ring, which is what I wanted.

In January, my mom and I began to plan a wedding for June of 2010, not knowing that this was not to be.

On March 3^rd 2009 I took a pregnancy test. It was positive.

I had wanted kiddos young. I imagined that we would have a honeymoon baby actually, but apparently the powers that be had other ideas. 

After some debating this way and that, Josh and I decided to get married before the baby was born instead of on the day we had planned. This meant that my mom and I were now planning a wedding 11 months earlier than expected and also that I was going to be six months pregnant on our wedding day. 

On Vacation !

Just stopping in to let you all know that we are having a fabulous time in Branson ! 

I miss my little bug but other than that this trip has been great. We've done a ton of eating, shopping, and lazing about so far.

Today we are camped out at Panera Bread so I can work on some homework and then we are probably going to a winery tonight. It will be my first time and I'm excited for the tour. 

Hoo Are You ?

1. Are you married/in a relationship/single? For how long?

I've been married for 18 months and started dating my husband 2 years and 8 months ago. 

2. What do you do for a living? Do you enjoy it?

I used to work in an In-Home Daycare with 16 children, but I quit in October to spend more time with my family and to find a more personal position. Well, now I have my own Child care business where I 'nanny' for three families part time. I <3 it. I get to take my daughter with me to play with other children and I still get to spend time with her. I also <3 the kiddos. They are amazing. I feel like I get to know the children so much better and give them much better care now that I can devote more one on one time to them. 

3. In what state do you live? Where were you born and raised?

I live in Illinois about 15 minutes from the hospital where I was born and about 15 minutes from both of my parents houses where I was raised. I haven't gone far :) 

4. Do you have children? If so, how many? If not, do you want them?

I have one daughter. She is 15 months old. I <3 her to pieces. 
This is her the day after her 1st birthday. She demolishes cake.

 

 

5. Who is your favorite blogger to follow and why? 

There is no way I could pick just one . But I can tell you my first ! 

Centsational Girl